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I got this response to a facebook message I sent to this woman. I love her so much and value her advice!


I have thinking about your question about marriage. I'm not sure that I know how to answer it. And I'm not sure that I'm one that has it all figured out either. I think being married is a decision that you have to make over and over. You make the decision to say yes when he asks and a decision to say i do when the preacher asks and a decision to stay every time he irritates you. I don't think there is such a thing as falling out of love or a fight that you just can't get over or an affair just happening without being able to stop it. It's all a decision that is made. The only thing that I would do different is that I should have worked full time that first year we were married so that he would be used to helping me with the chores around the house. It's virtually the only thing we ever argue about. But I wouldn't change anything big. I think you need to date the person at least a year before getting married and be sure that you really know them. Also know that nothing about that person is going to change once you get married, if it bothers you before marriage, it will bother you after marriage too. My favorite thing about being married is that I know he is always going to be there. I know I have someone to travel with, watch tv with, do nothing with, sleep next to, share my days with, etc. Hope this helps. Feel free to write back with any follow up.